Often, we wear masks. We hide who we truly are, in hopes that we develop friendships, relationships, networking opportunities and growth through becoming the person who we think everyone wants us to be.
To add insult to injury, often when we show who we truly are, we get burnt. You let someone into that level, and they hurt you. They take advantage of who you are, to benefit themselves. There are so many toxic people in this life we live, that it can be hard to sort through those who mean to do you harm, and those who are good people.
Those who are good, are the relationships you want to cherish and nurture. Those friendships that you never feel taken advantage of, never feel forgotten or worthless. Those friendships can go weeks without a communication, then one day you can just pickup right where you left off.
And those relationships are rare, valuable and irreplaceable.
Those are the people who love you for who you are, who see the good and the bad, and the ugly. The people who will help you get back on your feet after a nasty breakup. The people who will hold your hair while you are sick after a night of partying too hard. The people, who, at the drop of a hat will come help you, no matter the inconvenience it causes them.
These people, they are your tribe. They are the people who will have your back, and you theirs, through the good times and the bad, never faltering.
But developing these friendships are hard. Letting someone see the true you can be difficult and give an uneasy feeling of vulnerability and in some cases, weakness.
This is the greatest risk we will ever take, is to be seen as we truly are.
When I came forward about my history with domestic violence, I was treated very poorly by “friends” I had had for years.
Nobody believed that it was happening, and nobody thought what I went through was the truth. But that was what I truly was. That is what I had gone through, and by coming forward, I found out who my friends were.
It was hard, but the best thing that happened to me was seeing this, and moving on from it. Because if I hadn’t, I never would had met the friends I have today, and I am so grateful for each and every friend I have in my life now. Even if we haven’t talked for months, I am so thankful for their friendships.
Find those people who you love, and who love you. Find that partner that fuels your passion, lets you be you and motivates you to become the person you WANT to be, not the person THEY want you to be.